For my interview, I talked with 3 about birth,pregnancy,feelings,etc. based on these 5 questions(two of which I got from my classmates.
1.)What stigmas are associated with pregnancy?
2.)Which is seen as a greater moment:Death or Birth?
3.)Why do some people want to have children?
4.)Why wouldn't some people want to have children?
5.)Why is it that a teenager can be yelled at for getting pregnant or getting someone pregnant, the all of a sudden everything is fine when the baby comes, and is born?
The 3 people I interviewed were David Moroff(17), Richie Santiago, and Travis Sauter.
The responses that I got for the first question, were all pretty much the same. The most common stigma that iI heard them say, was being isolated and separated from your family and friends. This is mostly because certain family members may not believe that you are responsible enough to take care of a child. If you get a child, some tend to cast you out, because they don't want anything to do with you and your child. The same goes for friends also.
The second question got the same exact response. "Birth is greater than death, because birth bring happiness."
This question also relates to my 5th question, because it explains why people are suddenly happy when a baby is born, even when they furious just a few weeks before the birth. The 3rd and 4th questions got the same response also. They all said that responsibility was a key reason why people did, and didn't want to have kids. "Some people don't want to have a responsibility, to watch/take care of a child"(David and Travis) While Richie said "some people want to improve their relationship, so that a kid can bring them closer together", implying him and his girlfriend.
All three were great people to interview about this unit in my opinion, because they are in the same age group as I am. I listened to what they were saying on their thoughts,opinions,and experiences, and while doing that, I got a chance to compare their ideas with mine. This would help me possibly reconsider my beliefs about birth, pregnancy,etc.
Thursday, February 17, 2011
Monday, February 14, 2011
HW 34 - Some Initial Thoughts On Birth
Birth. Birth is considered to be "beautiful" by almost anyone you ask. Im feeling like birth is something that changes lives, and of course, something that creates life also. My sister was pregnant on two occasions, and I got to experience what it was like to be an uncle. My sister giving birth changed the way I thought about myself. I was no longer a little kid brother, I was that, an uncle, and eventually a role model. Birth doesn't only affect the one who gives birth, but also the people around, (familiy, friends.relatives. etc.)
Birth is also something that people love. For example if you were a teenage girl, and you have the type of parents who would be disappointed in you for being pregnant at such a young age, that all goes away the instant the baby is born. I watch reality television shows, about women who are 16 and 17 being pregnant, and their parents are angry, because they felt that their child was irresponsible and stupid for getting pregnant at that age. As time goes on, and the baby is closer to being born, than before, all the troubles, and problems seem to just vanish. It's like babies are the only thing to ease someone's heart. Like birth is the best thing ever. After that, everything is out of control again, and the question "Why did I have this baby?" is in your head. "How could my life have been different if I hadn't gotten pregnant?" Getting pregnant is the first step to a new life, for multiple people, and giving birth is an even bigger step, for even more people.
Questions:
-Why is birth such a big deal, to more people than it needs to be?
-Is there anyone out there, who doesn't fall into the trap of birth>anything,or anyone in the world?
-Why are some people so hypocritical towards birth?They don't want you to get pregnant, get mad if you do, and then all of a sudden are happy when you have the baby.????
What are other perspectives, or insights, when it comes to giving birth, or experiencing or witnessing some kind of birth?
Birth is also something that people love. For example if you were a teenage girl, and you have the type of parents who would be disappointed in you for being pregnant at such a young age, that all goes away the instant the baby is born. I watch reality television shows, about women who are 16 and 17 being pregnant, and their parents are angry, because they felt that their child was irresponsible and stupid for getting pregnant at that age. As time goes on, and the baby is closer to being born, than before, all the troubles, and problems seem to just vanish. It's like babies are the only thing to ease someone's heart. Like birth is the best thing ever. After that, everything is out of control again, and the question "Why did I have this baby?" is in your head. "How could my life have been different if I hadn't gotten pregnant?" Getting pregnant is the first step to a new life, for multiple people, and giving birth is an even bigger step, for even more people.
Questions:
-Why is birth such a big deal, to more people than it needs to be?
-Is there anyone out there, who doesn't fall into the trap of birth>anything,or anyone in the world?
-Why are some people so hypocritical towards birth?They don't want you to get pregnant, get mad if you do, and then all of a sudden are happy when you have the baby.????
What are other perspectives, or insights, when it comes to giving birth, or experiencing or witnessing some kind of birth?
Friday, January 21, 2011
HW 32 - Thoughts following illness & dying unit
The question that I wanted to about talk about was, What might I do or address differently as a result of what you have learned this unit individually, and with your family? The dominant social practices in our culture usually involve a lot of family discussions, when it comes to illness and dying. Something that I might do differently, would be to expect any kind of family disscussion the second the sense of illness and dying kreep into our lives. For a very long time I have been listening to my parents, and following all of their rules. I'm not saying that I am going to stop, but from now on, i'm going to think a little more about what they are saying to me. The way I have addressed their statements have been as if I was under their control, and as if whatever they say is right, and whatever I say is wrong. Doing hw #30 allowed me to question my parents (for good purposes) and build myself to become more independent. So from what I have learned this unit, I will bring more thought towards other's ideas and feelings, and try to create a plan that will benefit myself, and them at the sametime.
Thursday, January 13, 2011
HW 30 - Illness & Dying - Culminating Experiential Project
The aspect of the dominant social practice that I decided to explore, was having interventions with friends and family. When my grandparents started getting really sick, my parents told me that they had to have a "talk" with me and my sister about it. At first I thought that we were getting in trouble, because we didn't visit them as often as we should, but then my mom told us that we had to visit them twice as much. She only said that because they were getting really sick, and she didn't know how much time they had left. This unit helped me understand what the dominant practices were, whenever someone in your family got sick. Now according to the lecture my parents gave me, I can add family discussions to that list.
When I went on the internet, to find out more about teens relationships with their elders, I came across elder abuse. http://helpguide.org/mental/elder_abuse_physical_emotional_sexual_neglect.htm
De Benedictis,Tina.Warning signs, Risk Factors, Prevention, and help.Segal, Jeanne.NY.2010
What the article said was that there are different types of elderly abuse. One kind that cought my eye, was neglecting the elderly. The way my parents described my lack of appreciation towards what my grandparents did for me all my life, sort of matched up with what I was reading in the article. It made me question if I really was neglecting my elders or not.
The way that I explored during this process, was by listening to my parents, and going to see my grandparents when I was told to, and sometimes even taking the initiative to go on my own. I realized that my parents were wrong, I went up to them, and had a second intervention, discussing why I was not neglecting my grandparents, and actually showing them that I care. I never thought that I would have to be this independent when it came to family, but I showed my parents, my grandparents, and myself, that I am a responsible, appreciative, loving, independent grandson. I did enjoy what I did, because I pushed myself to do so, and in the process I learned how to be more responsible.
In this exploration, I learned a little bit more about myself. I proved myself to many people that I am a "good" person. But most importantly, I proved to myself that I can go far beyond the person I actually am. This shows that the dominant practices in our culture when it comes to illness and dying, are expendable. You can basically start off a conversation with your family talking about why you should change, and why you need to be a "better" person. and then ending it by saying "your wrong, I am nice, and I do care, and if you don't believe me, i'll prove it to you."
This matters, because you are observing yourself, and others around you. Finding our cultures dominant social practices help us shape our own, changing our lives for better or for worse.
When I went on the internet, to find out more about teens relationships with their elders, I came across elder abuse. http://helpguide.org/mental/elder_abuse_physical_emotional_sexual_neglect.htm
De Benedictis,Tina.Warning signs, Risk Factors, Prevention, and help.Segal, Jeanne.NY.2010
What the article said was that there are different types of elderly abuse. One kind that cought my eye, was neglecting the elderly. The way my parents described my lack of appreciation towards what my grandparents did for me all my life, sort of matched up with what I was reading in the article. It made me question if I really was neglecting my elders or not.
The way that I explored during this process, was by listening to my parents, and going to see my grandparents when I was told to, and sometimes even taking the initiative to go on my own. I realized that my parents were wrong, I went up to them, and had a second intervention, discussing why I was not neglecting my grandparents, and actually showing them that I care. I never thought that I would have to be this independent when it came to family, but I showed my parents, my grandparents, and myself, that I am a responsible, appreciative, loving, independent grandson. I did enjoy what I did, because I pushed myself to do so, and in the process I learned how to be more responsible.
In this exploration, I learned a little bit more about myself. I proved myself to many people that I am a "good" person. But most importantly, I proved to myself that I can go far beyond the person I actually am. This shows that the dominant practices in our culture when it comes to illness and dying, are expendable. You can basically start off a conversation with your family talking about why you should change, and why you need to be a "better" person. and then ending it by saying "your wrong, I am nice, and I do care, and if you don't believe me, i'll prove it to you."
This matters, because you are observing yourself, and others around you. Finding our cultures dominant social practices help us shape our own, changing our lives for better or for worse.
Thursday, January 6, 2011
HW 29 - Reading and noting basic materials
Health care has been around for a long time. Not always the same way though. "The first inssurence company is believe to have appered during the colonial era."p.5-Cohn, Jonathan. SICK Horper Collins. NY.2007 That inssurence company was the start of a great life for many people around the world, and also the downfall for many around the world. During the 20th century, health inssurence was starting to become really popular, and it was what many were discussing about. A lot of people were very excited for what was to come, and how this new thing could bring happiness to millions of people. Almost everyone was interested in what it was, and how to get it.
People wanted to know how to get it, and once they did know, everyone was happy, and excited to be soon getting something that they thought would always be the answer to sickness. A woman broke her ankle, and was taken to Baylors hospital, into the emergency room. She becam the first woman, and person, to utilize the NEW health care. "Hospital administators around the country copied the model, and improved on it from Baylors emergency room." p. 8-Cohn, Jonathan. SICK Horper Collins. NY.2007. This was real good information(aside from the broken ankle part). Since other hospital administrators found out what happened, they used that to their advantage, and built off of it. Blue cross was also built off of this.
In our current culture, the ill and dying sometimes don't have a choice on what they should do, because sometimes they are not physically/mentally able to do so. That is why when someone is dying, usually their family comes in to see them, and the doctor will have to ask the family what to do about it, becase the sick person is unable to. It's kind of funny. Our culture gives the right for people to decide when and where someone is gonna die.
With illness and dying, isolation vs. community is a big part. There was a part in Stigma, where someone was sick, and because of that, they were isolated from the people who were regular."Stigma refer to bodily signs designed to expose something unusual and bad about the moral status of the signifer. The signs were cut or burnt into the body and advertised that the bearer was a slave, a criminal, or a traitor."p.1- Goffman, Erving.STIGMA: notes on the management of spoiled identity. Preritice Hall.NJ.1963. Illness and dying back then did determine being isolated, or being put into a community. That being said, im guessing it must have stressful if anyone got sick. Imagine your mother or father getting sick, having to stay away from them, or maybe since they are your parents, you will have to stay with them. Then you will be an outcast also. Illness and dying has affected people for a long time mentally, physicall, and socially. From being labled as an outcast to having people deciding wheather you live or die, and deciding if you are no longer cut out for having health inssurence.
People wanted to know how to get it, and once they did know, everyone was happy, and excited to be soon getting something that they thought would always be the answer to sickness. A woman broke her ankle, and was taken to Baylors hospital, into the emergency room. She becam the first woman, and person, to utilize the NEW health care. "Hospital administators around the country copied the model, and improved on it from Baylors emergency room." p. 8-Cohn, Jonathan. SICK Horper Collins. NY.2007. This was real good information(aside from the broken ankle part). Since other hospital administrators found out what happened, they used that to their advantage, and built off of it. Blue cross was also built off of this.
In our current culture, the ill and dying sometimes don't have a choice on what they should do, because sometimes they are not physically/mentally able to do so. That is why when someone is dying, usually their family comes in to see them, and the doctor will have to ask the family what to do about it, becase the sick person is unable to. It's kind of funny. Our culture gives the right for people to decide when and where someone is gonna die.
With illness and dying, isolation vs. community is a big part. There was a part in Stigma, where someone was sick, and because of that, they were isolated from the people who were regular."Stigma refer to bodily signs designed to expose something unusual and bad about the moral status of the signifer. The signs were cut or burnt into the body and advertised that the bearer was a slave, a criminal, or a traitor."p.1- Goffman, Erving.STIGMA: notes on the management of spoiled identity. Preritice Hall.NJ.1963. Illness and dying back then did determine being isolated, or being put into a community. That being said, im guessing it must have stressful if anyone got sick. Imagine your mother or father getting sick, having to stay away from them, or maybe since they are your parents, you will have to stay with them. Then you will be an outcast also. Illness and dying has affected people for a long time mentally, physicall, and socially. From being labled as an outcast to having people deciding wheather you live or die, and deciding if you are no longer cut out for having health inssurence.
Monday, December 20, 2010
HW 18 - Health & Illness & Feasting
During my 2010 Thanksgiving break, my family and I ate a lot of food. Just like any other family, we all argue and fight for different reasons in different ways. Eating food somewhat calmed the fact that we were all angry at each other at one point, and switched to being happy with our stomachs full. During our feast, family members came over to my home, and we spent time together eating together. Sometimes I wonder why peoples personalities change when certain people are around. It is weird, but I know that for some reason it clears the atmosphere around us, and cuts the tension at times.
During our meal, we also watched a movie. It was one of the most exciting movies that came out in 2010, and it was a good choice at that moment. "The Expendables" was the movie we saw. Everyone was hooked to the movie, and they all including myself, were so glued to the movie. I saw the movie tons of times, and I agree with everyones addiction to the movie. For some reason that I don't know, the movie went well with our family gathering.
During the whole feast, there was never any lack of movement. Everyone was walking and talking, telling old hilarious family stories, and acknowledging the ones who weren't with us at the time. Once te movie started, everyone was different, and it was as if they were enslaved to the telovision. It was weird, but still kind of awesome at the same time. I was just happy that some of my family that was still alive, was there with me. The ones who were not, will always be remembered in some way. In a good, bad, funny, or crazy way, they will always be remembered.
During our meal, we also watched a movie. It was one of the most exciting movies that came out in 2010, and it was a good choice at that moment. "The Expendables" was the movie we saw. Everyone was hooked to the movie, and they all including myself, were so glued to the movie. I saw the movie tons of times, and I agree with everyones addiction to the movie. For some reason that I don't know, the movie went well with our family gathering.
During the whole feast, there was never any lack of movement. Everyone was walking and talking, telling old hilarious family stories, and acknowledging the ones who weren't with us at the time. Once te movie started, everyone was different, and it was as if they were enslaved to the telovision. It was weird, but still kind of awesome at the same time. I was just happy that some of my family that was still alive, was there with me. The ones who were not, will always be remembered in some way. In a good, bad, funny, or crazy way, they will always be remembered.
Thursday, December 16, 2010
HW 23 - Illness & Dying Book, Part 2
Book: Tuesday's with Morrie by Mitch Albom.
Publisher and year: Doubleday 1997
Precis: I am focusing on "The Third Tuesday We Talk About Regrets" chapter. Morrie wanted to have Mitch record what he was saying. He wanted someone to hear what he was saying, so that when he died, (and he knew that time was comming soon) someone would know what happened to him, and what he wanted to say to the world. He wasn't like others, because he reacted to the realism of death totally different from how other humans would.
"Mitch," he continued, softly now, "you don't understand. I want to tell you about my life. I want to tell you before I can't tell you anymore" p.63 What Morrie was trying to do, wa encourage Mitch to listen to him, because he didn't know how much time he had left to live.
"We all need teachers in our lives, and mine was sitting in front of me." p.65 What Mitch said actually touched me, because it made so much sense. It was something that I have once thoght about in my life, and someone in a book was actually agreeing with me. It made me feel confident in expressing my thoughts, and knowing that there was someone else in the world who thought like me.
"He was standing on the tracks listening to death's locomotive whistle, and he was very clear about the important things in life." p.66 I liked this quote, because it showed how accepting Morrie was to his death. It's interesting and unique, because there aren't many people who are like that.
This third of the book was good. I think it really showed how illness and dying affected Morrie, Mitch, and outsiders. Morrie is so far accepting the fact that he doesn't have much time to live. the only request he has, is for Mitch to be there with him, and listen to his final words. Mitch on the other hand can't believe this is happenning to his former professor. Of course he feels bad, but at the same time, he has to let Morrie deal with his problem, and just be there for him. The outsiders. The people who "care" so much for Morrie. Most of them really don't care about Morrie, they just care that a dying man was on television, and he doesn't give a s**t. The ones who send letters,and notes to him are the ones who care. They share there own experiences with him when it comes to illness and dying,and he writes back, which keeps them interested, and attracted to him.
Publisher and year: Doubleday 1997
Precis: I am focusing on "The Third Tuesday We Talk About Regrets" chapter. Morrie wanted to have Mitch record what he was saying. He wanted someone to hear what he was saying, so that when he died, (and he knew that time was comming soon) someone would know what happened to him, and what he wanted to say to the world. He wasn't like others, because he reacted to the realism of death totally different from how other humans would.
"Mitch," he continued, softly now, "you don't understand. I want to tell you about my life. I want to tell you before I can't tell you anymore" p.63 What Morrie was trying to do, wa encourage Mitch to listen to him, because he didn't know how much time he had left to live.
"We all need teachers in our lives, and mine was sitting in front of me." p.65 What Mitch said actually touched me, because it made so much sense. It was something that I have once thoght about in my life, and someone in a book was actually agreeing with me. It made me feel confident in expressing my thoughts, and knowing that there was someone else in the world who thought like me.
"He was standing on the tracks listening to death's locomotive whistle, and he was very clear about the important things in life." p.66 I liked this quote, because it showed how accepting Morrie was to his death. It's interesting and unique, because there aren't many people who are like that.
This third of the book was good. I think it really showed how illness and dying affected Morrie, Mitch, and outsiders. Morrie is so far accepting the fact that he doesn't have much time to live. the only request he has, is for Mitch to be there with him, and listen to his final words. Mitch on the other hand can't believe this is happenning to his former professor. Of course he feels bad, but at the same time, he has to let Morrie deal with his problem, and just be there for him. The outsiders. The people who "care" so much for Morrie. Most of them really don't care about Morrie, they just care that a dying man was on television, and he doesn't give a s**t. The ones who send letters,and notes to him are the ones who care. They share there own experiences with him when it comes to illness and dying,and he writes back, which keeps them interested, and attracted to him.
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